Unhappy with his current conditions, Dvij started incriminating to the environment, kin and kith, and all his surroundings. Even he attributed gods for his conditions; he used to say- “why god has made me like this”. Many people are having more wealth, standard and better life than me. He had a sleazy habit to compare himself with others, and focusing more on what other had, and he was bereft of. He never focused on what he did already possess; rather he was more focused on what he was lacking. In exasperation, he started severe penance to God to have everything he always wanted in his life to be happy. Happy with his penance, God asked him to seek a boon. He asked to the Lord that he should have more wealth, health, standard of life than his neighbors. It is so.... He got whatever he asked from the lord. For few days, he remained happy. He changed his residence to a posh area. He found there that his new neighbor was wealthier and a famous person. Over again, he started remain unhappy, irritated, frustrated, groaning and complaining. Despite all the necessary things he had to lead a happy, healthy and prosperous life; he was leaving a burdened life. Again, he remembered the lord and asked for more than his new neighbor had. Over again and again, he asked the lord for more to make himself happy and content. He kept changing his living style according to his standard, and over again, he was getting someone, who had something more than him. Someone had more wealth, someone had more fame, someone had more satisfaction, someone had fairer complexion, someone had better health, someone had more height... etc. The more he was getting, the more he was becoming unhappy, because comparison was also increasing in the same proportional.
The reason of his unhappiness was not, that he was lacking the resources, he was unhappy because someone was having something more than him. It is not possible for anyone to have everything best in his life. Everyone has been blessed with at least one best quality in him; that is certain. Someone recognize the hidden quality and make best use of that to lead a happy life, and thanks god to have the unique quality, and others keep comparing and complaining about what he is not possessing what others have, rather to look inside to find the existent treasure of the self. Dvij was suffering from Inferiority complex. Inferiority complex never allows anyone being happy. An inferiority complex, often used to mean low self-esteem, is a feeling of intense insecurity, inferiority or of not measuring up. An inferiority complex can be seen in the negative or "useless" reactions to problems in life. These reactions are useless because they do not solve the problem at hand, but only serve to guard one's self-esteem by avoiding the task or by placing the blame for the failure outside of the individual's control. Although the inferiority complex may be seen as comparing individuals or groups as one being superior to another, it more closely describes how one deals with a fear of failure.
The Vedanta teaches the mantra of happiness – enjoy to the fullest what you have already possessing and do not crave for what belongs to others. It is never going to make you happy, and you will culminate yourself in unfruitful complaining. The life is beautiful, you can know this, when you be true to yourself. You cannot be true to anyone if you are not true to yourself. The biggest achievement in your life is, to be known to yourself. When you know yourself, then you never think of being someone else. You start enjoying each and every moment of your life, and will give thanks to everything you have.
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