Choose the flower, not the thorn

Everyone likes flowers, its attractive texture, beautiful shape and amazing fragrance. No one likes thorn. Although, both have the same source, the same soil, the same seed, the same gardener, the same nutrients, the same water, the same sun, and the same wind. Both stay together on the same branches. But they are poles apart different in their character and appearance. One is soft and flexible, singing with bees and dancing to the tune of the wind, another is dry and strict. One is offered to gods and another is ignored. One gives the pleasure and another the pain.

This world is a garden. We are the different part of that. Living in the same world, some people become flowers and some thorns. Everyone has been provided the same source, the same sky, the same earth, the same oxygen, the same water, the same sun, the same moon. The people who want to be happy and pleasant like a flower, they become flowers and give the pleasure and fragrance to the world and get respect and value wherever they go. On the other hand, using the same facility of the world, the people can grow like a thorn which gives nothing more than pain and distress.

There is no problem with the world, the problem with your choice. If you choose to be a flower, you would be a flower, happy and successful. If you choose to be a thorn, you would be a thorn, dry, depressed and dejected. 

Three Things You Need To Understand To Be Happy

The people on this planet are suffering due to three reasons:

1. Physical and mental health

2. Relationship

3. Profession 

If any of these is not appropriate, you cannot be happy in this world. If you have everything, but your mental and physical health is not good, you cannot enjoy those. Your entire attention would be your health and treatment. You would not be happy.

Your physical and mental health is good, you are in a good profession, you are earning sufficient money, but you have an acrimonious relationship. Your entire focus would be on the harshness of your relationship. You would not be feeling blessed.

Your health is good, you have the caring relationships, but you are in a wrong profession, you are not enjoying what you do. You are not going to be happy.

A problem in one affects the rest two others. If you have a problem at health end, you cannot pay much attention to your relationship and profession. The same is true for your relationship and profession.  

That is true – but what is to be done to make aforementioned three points appropriate?

Health - If we do not have a correct understanding of the functionality of our body and mind, sooner or later, we are going to develop unhealthy body and unsound mind. The first priority must be given to understand the functionality of the mind and body. We must know how it works and what can be done to keep it healthy and functional. The majority knows how this world runs, but they do not know how their body and mind works. Understand what kind of body and mind you have and what kind of work you can take from it. Without understanding it, you can neither take care of your body and mind nor you can take any significant work from it.

Relationship - If your relationship is bitter, you cannot be happy. Human is a social animal. You have to connect to the people. You cannot run away from it. Therefore, it is better to understand the relationship how to maintain it. Try to find out the similarities in the relationship, not the differences.

We spoil our relationship because of the excess expectation from others without understanding our duty towards them. The relationship does not sustain for a longer time on mere expectation. It sustains on the basis of mutual understanding. Think, what you can do for the other party rather than expecting what they can do for you. Be the donor, not the beggar.

Profession - You can acquire some degree and land into a job or a business. You can earn sufficient money also. However, you would not be happy, if your profession is not according to your material nature or you do not have the understanding of your job. You will struggle with your profession. You will feel exploited.

You do not want to continue your job, at the same time, you do not want to quit your job as well due to some immediate commitment and compulsion. Better, spend some time and understand the nature of your job and do it pleasantly rather keeping yourself confused.

To make your life happy and joyous just take care of these three points.

i.              Understand your body and mind and take care of it, before taking care of anything else.

ii.            Understand your relationship. Think what you can do, in the ambit of your capacity, for them rather than expecting from them.

iii.           Understand the nature of your profession. Choose your profession which you can do it with ease or make your current profession interesting by understanding it thoroughly.

Without understanding, nothing can be controlled or handled properly.