शादी - शूदा लोगो में अक्सर प्यार की कमी क्यों रहती है....?

शादी से पहले वर और वधू के हर पहलू  का वाकायदा निरकक्षण किया जाता है कि वे करते क्या है , उनकी शिक्षा क्या है , उनकी आमदनी क्या है, उनका खानदान क्या है.... वैगरह - वैगरह... उसके बाद कुंडली मिलायी जाती है।  सब क़ुछ समाज और परिवार के अनुसार मैच होने के बाद दो लोग शादी के प्रणव सूत्र में बंधते नहीं, परन्तु, अक्सर समाज और परिवार के रीति-रिवाज़ के बंधन में बांध दिये जाते है।

लेकिन प्यार में ऐसा नहीं होता - प्यार महज हो जाता है। प्यार जातीय पसंद होता है।

शादी एक मुक्कमल चीज़ होती है और प्यार अधूरा होता है। मुक्कमल और अधूरा एक दूसरे का विरोधाभास होता है। एक -दूसरे के साथ नहीं रह सकते।  पूर्णता आते ही अधूरापन समाप्त हो जाता है।  शादी के बाद पति  और पत्नी  एक दूसरे में परफेक्शन ढूढ़ने में लग जाते है ।  एक- दूसरे को सुधारने  में लग जाते है।  एक-दूसरे के कमियों को उजागर करने में लग जाते है।   शादी हो गयी है मतलब की एक दूसरे  में कोई कमिया नहीं होनी  चाहिए। यही सुधरने और सुधारने में पूरी जिंदगी समाप्त हो जाती है।

प्यार पफेक्शन का मांग नहीं करता, बल्कि जो भी है उसको स्वीकार करता है। वह इसकी मांग कर ही नहीं सकता - क्योकि प्यार अपने-आप में आधा और अधूरा होता है।  गौर से देखे -

प्यार में प आधा है,
इश्क में श आधा है,
मुहब्बत में ब आधा है,
प्रेम में र आधा है और
प्रेम के  प्रतिक माने जाने वाले श्रीकृष्ण में ष अधूरा है-
इसीलिए तो मंदिरो में श्रीकृष्ण के साथ सत्यभामा नहीं, राधा है।

जिसको पता है कि मै खूद में अधूरा हूँ, तो वह दुसरो में  परफेक्शन नहीं ढूंढ़ता, बल्कि उसमे विलय होकर अपने अधूरेपन को दूर करने का प्रयास करता है।

प्यार करने वाले एक - दूसरे की कमियों पर ताने नहीं कसते, बल्कि  जो अच्छाइयाँ है उसकी प्रशंसा करते है और अपनी खुद  की कमियों को दूर करने का प्रयास करते है।  उनको एक - दूसरो में कमिया नहीं दिखती।  और शादी - शूदा लोगो में एक-दूसरे में कमियों के सिवाह कुछ और नहीं दीखता।   इसलिए वहा प्यार का फूल खिलना मुश्किल हो जाता है।

शादी के कई साल हो जाते है - बच्चे भी हो जाते है - लेकिन एक-दूसरे में परफेक्शन ढूढ़ने वालो के खूद के जीवन में अधूरापन के सिवाय कुछ भी नहीं मिलता।  इसीलिए पति और पत्नी के जीवन में भटकाव भी देखा जा सकता है।  शादी के अतिरिक्त कोई अन्य सम्बन्ध होना इस अधूरेपन का नतीजा होता है।

भले ही प्यार अधूरा होता है, लेकिन उसमें  जिंदगी पूर्ण होती है, उसमे  जान होता है।  शादी भले ही मुक्कमल चीज़ हो, लेकिन उसमें जिंदगी अक्सर  अधूरी रहती है।

शादी - शूदा लोगो की प्रेम कहानी पाना मुश्किल है।  क्या आपने कही देखा या सुना है शादी-शूदा लोगो की प्रेम कहानी ? जहा प्रेम न हो वहा प्रेम कहानी कैसे बन सकती है।  शादी के  बाद इंसान की खुद के अस्तित्व के साथ-साथ उसकीं सारी कहानिया  ख़त्म हो जाती है।  जिनलोगो की प्रेम कहानी है - उनकी कभी शादी नहीं हो पायी-
जैसे -
लैला मजनू, हीर राँझा, जूलियट फरियाद, राधा कृष्ण इत्यादि।  श्रीकृष्ण की आठ पत्निया थी - उनमे से एक के साथ भी उनकी प्रेम कहानी नहीं है।  उनकी प्रेम कहानी राधा के साथ है, जो  कभी उनकी पत्नी न बन सकी।

सीता और राम की प्रेम कहानी लिखने का प्रयास किया गया था - लेकिन क्या हुआ - वह एक दूसरे सत्यता की  परीक्षा लेने में और एक -दूसरे को अपनी सत्यता सिद्ध करने में लगे रहे।  और अंत मे, दोनों ने इस तनाव से आत्महत्या कर लिए।  शादी के इस तनाव और परीक्षा से तंग आकर  सीताजी  ने अपने-आप को ही जमीन में गाड़ लिया और अपनी जीवन लीला समाप्त कर ली।  तत्पश्चात, श्रीराम जी  ने भी सरयू नदी में डूबकर अपने प्राण त्याग दिए। अधिकतर लोगो की शादी  की  कहानी इससे ज़्यादा कुछ भी नहीं। 

अगर आप प्यार में है तो शादी के सम्भावना है, लेकिन शादी के बाद प्यार की संभावना हो, ऐसा कोई जरूरी नहीं।

परन्तु यह भी सत्य है की - प्रेम का फूल किसी भी रिश्ता  में खिलाया  है, बशर्ते हम इसके अधूरेपन को स्वीकार करे की कोई भी न परफेक्ट है और नहीं हो सकता है।  एक दूसरे के कमियों को स्वीकार कर साथ में ख़ुशी ख़ुशी रहना ही प्रेम है। जिस रिश्ते में  प्रेम नहीं होता, उस रिश्ते के आदमी एक-दूसरे के साथ कभी भी खुश नहीं रह सकते। फिर वह रिश्ता एक समझौता होता है, एक मजबूरी होती है, एक दासता  होती है, और कुछ भी नहीं। कहने के लिए रिश्ता तो होता है, परन्तु  ऐसे रिश्तो में जान नहीं होता।

स्वामी विवेकानंद कहते है -
"जीवन  में ज्यादा रिश्ता होना जरूरी नहीं, पर जो रिश्ते है,  उसमे जीवन रहना जरूरी है। "

Why Some Great People Never Die…?

Lord Mahavira was ridiculed and tortured when he started spreading his message to the world. He was taunted - what a naked man is going to teach to the world. People saw his external nakedness, but could not see the naked truth hidden in his external nakedness which he wanted to dissipate for the welfare of humanity. Despite all these torture and harassment, he continued spreading the knowledge to the humanity what he had acquired in his deep meditation and stringent penance.

Lord Buddha was jeered and laughed, but he did not stop spreading the message and knowledge he had acquired in his deep meditation and penance.

Jesus Christ knew he would be killed if he was going to spread the message what he had acquired in his deep meditation. That was against the faith of many people of that time and beyond the understanding of the common mind. Despite that, he continued spreading his message and knowledge to the world for the welfare of humanity. Eventually, he was crucified, but his message, his idea and ideology are still alive.

Prophet Mohammad tried to spread the message and knowledge what he had got in his deep meditation in Hira cave through Archangel Gabriel. He was ignored. Many people stood against him. He was threatened. Murder attempts were done. He had to migrate from one place to another place to save his life. Later, his message was heard and understood, and those are still alive today.

The same happened with Swami Dayanand Saraswati, Swami Vivekananda, Galileo, Newton, Einstein and many other great people who tried to spread the great message for the entire humanity were joked, mocked,  threatened and killed. But despite that, their teachings and ideology are still alive and inspiring and helping millions of people around the globe.  

They did not have any personal motive behind that. They just heard their inner voice and without caring for what would happen to their mortal body, they started working by devoting their entire life force for that. They had reached the stage beyond the existence of the body of flesh and bone.

If you are attached to the temporary and transient – the property, wealth, money, popularity, body made of flesh and bone – you are going to die with it. The moment you lose your mortal body, all things will be left forever. You will be forgotten forever. The earth has witnessed many births and deaths. But very few people have become immortal on this planet by their deeds and are remembered forever.

If you become wise enough, you will enjoy this life in this body, if not, you will suffer here in this body and world and hereafter also. Everybody is born with a special purpose. Recognize that special purpose and put all your life force for that purpose.  Live for that purpose and die for that purpose.

Remember- you may be mocked, jeered, isolated and threatened initially. Ready for that. And keep working for your purpose without caring for the temporary setbacks. Your dream, desire, passion all are the call of your spirit. You are going to listen to your spirit if you want to be happy and satisfied in this mortal world and remembered even after your death.

If you work merely for your body and satisfying for your senses, you are not going to be happy and content ever. You have got this body here for the temporary period, it is going to die. If you work for your spirit which is permanent through this particular body, you will be happy and content here and hereafter. You will be remembered and respected.

The great people always work for their spirit, they listen to that and fearlessly they dedicate their life for that without expecting anything in return. Due to this reason, people become great, and due to their greatness and deeds they are remembered and respected century after century. They leave their immortal footprint on this mortal planet.

The seed of greatness is hidden in everybody. Just start working for your spirit and passion without expecting anything from anyone in return. Just listen to your spirit, the inner voice and contribute to this world and humanity, you will get an immense happiness and content.

The people who have thought beyond the existence of the mortal body and material opulence and focused on immortal spirit dwelling in the cave of heart and listened to that and worked as per their spirit and passion they create history and are remembered forever. Everybody is born with a potential of becoming great. That depends what you hold and what you sacrifice. 

Why The Sun Is Worshipped On Chhath Puja – What Is Its Significance

On Chhath Puja, predominantly, the Sun is revered and worshipped. There are various rituals and customs of revering and worshipping Sun around the world. Various people in the various parts of the world express their gratitude to the god Sun in various ways. Mostly, rising sun is worshipped in the world. But, Chhath Puja is the only festival in this world where both rising and setting sun is worshipped equally.

This festival has a very powerful and profound spiritual meaning. This festival and its rituals are so profound that this single festival is sufficient enough to teach us the entire essence of life and existence if its essence is properly understood rather than doing it mechanically.

The rising and sinking sun are the symbolism of birth and death of the living beings on this planet. Birth and death is the reality of this existence. There is no new birth without death and there is no death if there is no birth. If there is no birth and death, the rhythmic movement of the universe will cease to exist. If there is birth, then there would be a certain death. No one has the power to delay or stop it. It is going to happen at its course of time. Birth and death are the two edges between which the river of life flows. Eventually, the river merges with a great ocean where it leaves all its name and form and become one with the source.

Generally, people celebrate birth but fear death. We forget that without understanding the death, life can neither be understood nor can be enjoyed. In the state of fear, no one can enjoy his life to the fullest. Life is not for fear, sorrow or suffering, it is for living and it must be lived meaningfully before it is engulfed by the deep trench of death. It is possible only when we understand and accept the reality of death.

On Chhath day, the setting sun is worshipped first and the next day the rising sun is worshipped. This ritual gives the importance of death over birth.  And death is not the permanent cessation of the soul. After some time, the same soul manifests again in other forms like rising sun. And in this way, the soul gets one more opportunity to live the life piously with right conduct like the radiant sun by remembering the reality of death ahead.

It is said that –Sun provided the knowledge of Veda to the Yagnavalkya who was a great Rishi and has been mentioned in Upanishads. The Sun bestowed the knowledge of Veda to Lord Hanuman. Due to this knowledge, Lord Hanuman is called Gyan Gun Sagar (Ocean of knowledge and quality). God Sun is the first person who got the first knowledge of Bhagavad Gita by the supreme personality of Godhead. Later he passed the knowledge to the world through his lineage.

The Sun is considered as a symbol of knowledge that dissipates the darkness of the world when he rises. We see the things clearly. Similarly, when the sun of knowledge rises inside us the darkness of ignorance disappears from our life. All our doubts and confusion vanished. We see the things as it is. We get the Atma-Gyan, the self-knowledge. In the presence of the sun of knowledge, nothing can deviate us. We illuminate like the sun and help others also to remove the darkness of their life by spreading the light of knowledge. The way sunlight never discriminates anything, he falls equally on all the objects – good, evil, ugly. He falls on every object, but not attached or contaminated by anyone or anything. Similarly, the person who has the light of knowledge, never discriminate anything or anyone, he throws his light of knowledge everywhere for the welfare of humanity. This is shown by distributing the home-made Prasdam to the people.

Life is not possible without the presence of the sun. There would be no any possibility of food on this planet. There would be no plants and trees that make their foods from the sun. If the sun does not rise for someday, the earth will freeze, and all creatures will die.

Sunrise, sunset, day and night all are equally important for the subsistence of the earth. If there is only day, not night in some particular area, there would be scorching heat and creatures will burn to death. If there is night in some particular area and not day, then that area will freeze and creatures will die out of the cold. To make the life possible on this planet, the sun rises at one place and set at another place. The rise and set of the sun happen because of the rhythmic rotation of the earth.

Sunrise is the birth, sunset is the death, day and night are the two aspects of life. Ups and downs of life like day and night are important to make the vehicle of life move ahead. The ritual of this festival teaches us that - every aspect of existence is important and it is directly associated with our lives and it must be understood, respected and valued.

Sun burns himself first to generate light and heat before providing that light and heat to the world.  Before generating the light of knowledge, like the sun, we have to burn ourselves in the fire of Tap (Penance), only then the sun of knowledge will rise within and remove the darkness of our life. That is why, on that day, an arduous fasting is done. Fasting and remembering god or goddesses is one of the ways of Tap by which the impurities of body and mind is burned.

The purity of body and mind is the first step towards the journey of spirituality. That day, Nirjal Upvas is done, meaning – fasting without taking even a drop of water for a longer time. During the fasting and Puja, they kindle Diya. This is symbolism of kindling the light of spirituality and knowledge within to remove the darkness and malign from our existence. For this festival and ritual, no priest is required. This can be done by anyone for kindling the light of knowledge and spirituality within.